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Love and fear are two dominant, primal states of being. The practice of choosing love over fear is a powerful and transformative approach to life. It involves consciously making decisions, cultivating attitudes, and responding to situations from a place of love rather than succumbing to fear.

The practice of choosing love over fear is a conscious and ongoing effort to shift your mindset and responses toward love, compassion, and positivity. It's a journey of personal growth and transformation that can lead to more fulfilling relationships, increased well-being, and a deeper sense of purpose. This practice has been a key part of my life and helps me feel centered, grounded, and peaceful.

Here are key aspects of this practice:

Awareness and Mindfulness:

Recognizing Fearful Thoughts:

The first step is to become aware of fear-based thoughts and emotions. Mindfulness helps in identifying moments when fear is influencing your mindset and choices.

Conscious Decision-Making

Choosing Love...

Here's an exploration of the two perspectives:

Life is Happening to Me:

External Forces: This perspective often involves seeing life events as external forces acting upon you. It might feel like circumstances, challenges, and experiences are beyond your control.

Reacting Mode: Individuals with this mindset may find themselves reacting to situations, feeling overwhelmed by external events, and perceiving life as a series of unpredictable occurrences.

Life is Happening For Me:

Empowerment: Adopting the mindset that life is happening for you suggests a belief that there is purpose and meaning in every experience, even in challenges. It's about finding opportunities for growth and learning.

Active Participation: This perspective implies that you play an active role in shaping your experiences. Challenges are viewed as opportunities to develop resilience, gain insights, and move closer to your goals.

Positive Reframing: Even in difficult circumstances, the focus is on reframing challenges into...

Maya Angelou said, “People won’t remember what you said, they won’t remember what you did, but they will remember how you made them feel”.  

It’s true, right? Emotions are contagious and how you make people feel depends on whether your nervous system is regulated or not. 

Imagine a time someone walked into a room and they were full of rage, anger, or hate. Just being in their presence might invoke anxiety, your nervous system may absorb their stress levels, your body may begin to suddenly feel tense, tight, or constricted.

Now recall a time you were with someone who was full of joy! They entered the room that you’re in and it felt like sunshine. They were light and airy and full of love. They radiated fulfillment and excitement. All of a sudden, you felt uplifted, expanded, and lit up. As if you were breathing easier and your body felt more relaxed, open, and expansive.

At its core, nervous system regulation is the ability to move flexibly between different states of ar...

Happiness and joy have nothing to do with our life circumstances. Happiness and joy are a result of what’s happening in our minds.

You’ll be happier and more joyful when you feel inner peace. You'll feel more inner peace when you think better thoughts, since our thoughts cause our feelings.

ALL feelings are valid, but all thoughts are not. In fact, 80% of our thoughts are negative, so it's understandable why so many people feel depressed, anxious, and angry.

Happiness is not outside of you, it’s within.

Jocelyn was struggling with negative thoughts and was consumed by anxiety and pessimism. She knew she needed to change her thinking and wanted to get in a good frame of mind for her job search.

She signed up for my 6-week private coaching program and has enjoyed remarkable results! Her anxiety went from a 10 to less than a 1, she feels more positive and optimistic, and more calm. Here’s what she had to say about the experience:

“I had a profound and immediate shift in my mood and ...