Maya Angelou said, “People won’t remember what you said, they won’t remember what you did, but they will remember how you made them feel”.
It’s true, right? Emotions are contagious and how you make people feel depends on whether your nervous system is regulated or not.
Imagine a time someone walked into a room and they were full of rage, anger, or hate. Just being in their presence might invoke anxiety, your nervous system may absorb their stress levels, your body may begin to suddenly feel tense, tight, or constricted.
Now recall a time you were with someone who was full of joy! They entered the room that you’re in and it felt like sunshine. They were light and airy and full of love. They radiated fulfillment and excitement. All of a sudden, you felt uplifted, expanded, and lit up. As if you were breathing easier and your body felt more relaxed, open, and expansive.
At its core, nervous system regulation is the ability to move flexibly between different states of arousal in response to stressors. I’ve listed some signs of a regulated and dysregulated nervous system below. Check it out to see where you are currently, and read on to see why it matters!
People often experience chronic stress from everyday life, and as a result, have dysregulated nervous systems. You will feel dramatically better as you learn to regulate your nervous system, You can gain tools to maintain a regulated nervous system, despite difficult situations and circumstances, amidst the chaos and stress of the world.
The simple act of regulating my own nervous system dramatically affected my relationship with my husband, kids, boss, friends, and strangers. Here’s the deal: Your nervous system meets your partner/child/friend/coworker's nervous system, and a new one is created between the two of you.
Co-regulation is the way that the nervous system of one individual influences the nervous system of another. Putting it simply, if your nervous system is out of balance your relationships are out of balance.
Relationship is everything. Understanding co-regulation is important because we can become aware of the interplay between our nervous systems; and we can alter the dynamics to have healthier, happier, and more fulfilling relationships.
If you identify with any of the above symptoms of a dysregulated nervous system, I would love to help you find harmony and remember how it is to feel peace within yourself. There are two ways you can receive support from me:
If you have any questions about these offerings, please feel free to email me, or Book a Discovery Call.
P.S. If you have friends, family, and colleagues who could benefit from empowerment coaching and mindfulness, I would appreciate it if you could share this with them. Both options above can be done with a friend, and having an accountability buddy can support both of you in creating peace within.