Here's an exploration of the two perspectives:
Life is Happening to Me:
External Forces: This perspective often involves seeing life events as external forces acting upon you. It might feel like circumstances, challenges, and experiences are beyond your control.
Reacting Mode: Individuals with this mindset may find themselves reacting to situations, feeling overwhelmed by external events, and perceiving life as a series of unpredictable occurrences.
Life is Happening For Me:
Empowerment: Adopting the mindset that life is happening for you suggests a belief that there is purpose and meaning in every experience, even in challenges. It's about finding opportunities for growth and learning.
Active Participation: This perspective implies that you play an active role in shaping your experiences. Challenges are viewed as opportunities to develop resilience, gain insights, and move closer to your goals.
Positive Reframing: Even in difficult...
Maya Angelou said, “People won’t remember what you said, they won’t remember what you did, but they will remember how you made them feel”.
It’s true, right? Emotions are contagious and how you make people feel depends on whether your nervous system is regulated or not.
Imagine a time someone walked into a room and they were full of rage, anger, or hate. Just being in their presence might invoke anxiety, your nervous system may absorb their stress levels, your body may begin to suddenly feel tense, tight, or constricted.
Now recall a time you were with someone who was full of joy! They entered the room that you’re in and it felt like sunshine. They were light and airy and full of love. They radiated fulfillment and excitement. All of a sudden, you felt uplifted, expanded, and lit up. As if you were breathing easier and your body felt more relaxed, open, and expansive.
At its core, nervous system...
Happiness and joy have nothing to do with our life circumstances. Happiness and joy are a result of what’s happening in our minds.
You’ll be happier and more joyful when you feel inner peace. You'll feel more inner peace when you think better thoughts, since our thoughts cause our feelings.
ALL feelings are valid, but all thoughts are not. In fact, 80% of our thoughts are negative, so it's understandable why so many people feel depressed, anxious, and angry.
Happiness is not outside of you, it’s within.
Jocelyn was struggling with negative thoughts and was consumed by anxiety and pessimism. She knew she needed to change her thinking and wanted to get in a good frame of mind for her job search.
She signed up for my 6-week private coaching program and has enjoyed remarkable results! Her anxiety went from a 10 to less than a 1, she feels more positive and optimistic, and more calm. Here’s what she had to say about the experience:
The short days and long nights of winter are meant to be cozy and nurturing. Nature is guiding us into deep, restorative rest.
Amidst the busyness of the holidays, remember that the nature of winter is a season for relaxing, reading, reflecting, lounging, and allowing your body, mind and soul to reconnect with your essential self.. Resting deeply repairs, rejuvenates, and heals our body, mind, and spirit.
Create space during this season of light so that you can drop deeply into restorative rest and deep sleep. Rest allows your brain waves to slow, which renews cells, brings harmony to your bodily functions, and begets greater clarity. Deep sleep allows your body to heal and regenerate, create human growth hormone, and come into balance.
Today is Winter Solstice, the shortest day of the year, in which we celebrate the return of sunlight. We move towards shorter nights and longer days unfolding. It only gets brighter from here!
We all need hope in the darkest of...
How do you create change?
What happens that finally makes you say, "That's enough. I am going to change this."
Ready? Here it is:
Decide and declare.
It's that simple.
Decide you're ready to do what it takes to enjoy life, be in good health, engage in strong loving relationships, and receive abundance. Decide to experience peace, joy, freedom, ease, and happiness.
Declare that you're willing.
You may have been paralyzed in fear, done nothing, avoided, ignored, or distracted yourself from the problem hundreds or thousands of times. You may have let thoughts like "I don't have enough time" or "I don't have enough money" hold you back.
You have the agency to create change by making a different decision, (no longer letting those limiting beliefs hold you back) taking a new inspired action (no longer paralyzed or stuck), and creating a different outcome (a life you truly love!)
I will be by your side, holding your hand, loving you, and supporting you along the way. But you know what I...
If you’re successful on the surface, yet struggling underneath, I was too.
A combination of meditation and coaching led me to a profound transformation and new ways of being, and experience more ease, freedom, happiness, and fulfillment. I was a success on paper, but had a nagging sense that I wasn't fully alive and thriving, or even fulfilling my real potential.
Whatever you are feeling now, feeling better is possible. Feeling calm, connected, aligned, and at ease is possible. Being centered on what matters most and grounded in mental and emotional stability is just the beginning.
You’ll find relief and it’ll feel like a giant exhale is leaving your body. You will experience deeper connections in your relationships, less burnout and frustration, more joy and peace, better health, and career success and fulfillment.
Empowerment coaching and mindfulness practices help you reprogram your brain and nervous system from old thoughts, stories, and limiting beliefs...
We often hope that others will act the way we think they should. We hope that a new job opportunity will be a great fit, or that a new romantic partner, boss, friend, or colleague will be as we hoped.
Sometimes, it turns out they’re not who we wanted them to be and we wish they were different or better, or we feel disappointed, heartbroken, frustrated, and/or angry. This can cause us to have self-doubt, blame, shame, second-guess, or judge ourselves.
What if it’s simply that that person, job, or situation was not what we hoped they would be?
We can be disappointed and choose not to judge, criticize, or put down them or ourselves.
Instead, choosing to think “They are not who I hoped they would be” allow them to be as they are, without wishing they were different or better. Without being attached to them needing to change. It also allows you to accept them for who they are and allows you to be calm, as well as have peace and self-trust.
From this calm, centered...