A Gentle Reminder: One Thing You Can Control in Turbulent Times
Nov 28, 2023
In the midst of life's chaos and uncertainties, I hope this message finds you well. The world can be a tumultuous place, often leaving us feeling unsafe, uncertain, and ungrounded. It's easy to succumb to the desire to control external factors—our relationships, work, finances—in an attempt to find stability. Yet, as we know, this control is elusive, and the result can be more anxiety and worry.
Amidst this turbulence, I invite you to consider a different path—one that you have the power to navigate. The key lies in how you treat yourself.
Why Self-Treatment Matters: Treating yourself with love, kindness, understanding, compassion, and empathy is a powerful way to fulfill your core needs—for safety, belonging, unconditional love, to be seen, and to be heard. In times of struggle, turning towards yourself can be a beacon of solace.
A Compassionate Approach: When faced with challenges, take a moment to identify which needs are unmet. Ask yourself, "What is the most nourishing thing right now?" While healthy relationships play a crucial role, self-love involves recognizing what you need and taking steps, no matter how small, to meet those needs.
An Example of Self-Nourishment: If the world feels unsafe, try a simple practice. Take a deep breath, place your hand on your heart, and acknowledge the present moment. Despite concerns about the future, affirm to yourself, "Right here, right now, I am safe. In this moment, I am okay. All is well."
Beyond Bubble Baths: Remember, self-love extends beyond superficial indulgences. In a world filled with chaos, your thoughts are within your control. Challenge the criticisms, doubts, fears, and scarcity thinking. Replace them with love—pure and unconditional.
You Are in Control: Amidst the uncontrollable, your self-treatment is a steady anchor. Embrace the power to choose love over negativity. Start within your mind, fostering a shift from criticism to love. The one thing you can control is how you treat yourself.
In the journey of life's uncertainties, self-love is a beacon of light. Take this moment to reflect on your needs and embrace the practice of treating yourself with the kindness you deserve.