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Love and fear are two dominant, primal states of being. The practice of choosing love over fear is a powerful and transformative approach to life. It involves consciously making decisions, cultivating attitudes, and responding to situations from a place of love rather than succumbing to fear.

The practice of choosing love over fear is a conscious and ongoing effort to shift your mindset and responses toward love, compassion, and positivity. It's a journey of personal growth and transformation that can lead to more fulfilling relationships, increased well-being, and a deeper sense of purpose. This practice has been a key part of my life and helps me feel centered, grounded, and peaceful.

Here are key aspects of this practice:

Awareness and Mindfulness:

Recognizing Fearful Thoughts:

The first step is to become aware of fear-based thoughts and emotions. Mindfulness helps in identifying moments when fear is influencing your mindset and choices.

Conscious Decision-Making

Choosing Love...

Here's an exploration of the two perspectives:

Life is Happening to Me:

External Forces: This perspective often involves seeing life events as external forces acting upon you. It might feel like circumstances, challenges, and experiences are beyond your control.

Reacting Mode: Individuals with this mindset may find themselves reacting to situations, feeling overwhelmed by external events, and perceiving life as a series of unpredictable occurrences.

Life is Happening For Me:

Empowerment: Adopting the mindset that life is happening for you suggests a belief that there is purpose and meaning in every experience, even in challenges. It's about finding opportunities for growth and learning.

Active Participation: This perspective implies that you play an active role in shaping your experiences. Challenges are viewed as opportunities to develop resilience, gain insights, and move closer to your goals.

Positive Reframing: Even in difficult circumstances, the focus is on reframing challenges into...

Happiness and joy have nothing to do with our life circumstances. Happiness and joy are a result of what’s happening in our minds.

You’ll be happier and more joyful when you feel inner peace. You'll feel more inner peace when you think better thoughts, since our thoughts cause our feelings.

ALL feelings are valid, but all thoughts are not. In fact, 80% of our thoughts are negative, so it's understandable why so many people feel depressed, anxious, and angry.

Happiness is not outside of you, it’s within.

Jocelyn was struggling with negative thoughts and was consumed by anxiety and pessimism. She knew she needed to change her thinking and wanted to get in a good frame of mind for her job search.

She signed up for my 6-week private coaching program and has enjoyed remarkable results! Her anxiety went from a 10 to less than a 1, she feels more positive and optimistic, and more calm. Here’s what she had to say about the experience:

“I had a profound and immediate shift in my mood and ...

If you’re successful on the surface, yet struggling underneath, I was too.

A combination of meditation and coaching led me to a profound transformation and new ways of being, and experience more ease, freedom, happiness, and fulfillment. I was a success on paper, but had a nagging sense that I wasn't fully alive and thriving, or even fulfilling my real potential.

Whatever you are feeling now, feeling better is possible. Feeling calm, connected, aligned, and at ease is possible. Being centered on what matters most and grounded in mental and emotional stability is just the beginning.

You’ll find relief and it’ll feel like a giant exhale is leaving your body. You will experience deeper connections in your relationships, less burnout and frustration, more joy and peace, better health, and career success and fulfillment.

Empowerment coaching and mindfulness practices help you reprogram your brain and nervous system from old thoughts, stories, and limiting beliefs so you can stop feel...

Did you know that if you put a flea in a jar and put a lid on the jar, initially the flea will jump around and hit its head on the lid of the jar for a certain period of time until it learns the boundaries of the jar?

After a while, the fleas learn the limitations of where the lid is and you can remove the lid from the jar, but the flea will continue to jump at the adjusted height, and never jump out of the jar again because it's been conditioned by its environment. When the fleas reproduce, their offspring will follow their example.

In a lot of ways humans are like fleas, we start out young, confident, and full of dreams and aspirations. Along the way, our thinking conditions us to operate and live within the limitations of our environment and we begin to adjust to the limits others have set for us as if we're fleas in a jar.

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It's essential to have effective stress relievers that can calm your mind and body.
 
Today I'm sharing 4 simple, effective, instant stress relievers that you can do anywhere, anytime. These will provide immediate relief and lower your stress, anxiety, and overwhelm right now.

ELONGATED EXHALES:

When stressed, we are often taking only shallow breaths from the upper chest. A full deep belly breath helps to release pressure and tension.
 
Breathing in deeply and extending your exhale a couple of seconds longer than the inhale (i.e. inhale for 5, hold for 5, exhale for 7) sends signals to your nervous system that you're in a safe space and it's okay to rest and relax.

• Take a nice long, slow, deep breath through your nose into your belly, letting your abdomen expand fully
• Hold it for a few seconds
• Imagine you have a wand with a bubble on it - as you breathe out, be careful not to pop the bubble
• As you exhale, unclench your jaw, drop your shoulders, and soften your belly
• Close your eye
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Are you working hard for something you want, and it's just not happening for you? It's likely because your programs and subconscious mind don't support what you want, and your subconscious is holding you back from getting where you want.

The hard truth is that we've all been programmed and these programs largely reside in our subconscious mind. The bad news is that in today's society, most of the programs are negative, disempowering, and limiting. For example, "I'm alone, I can't do this, I'm going to fail, I'm not attractive enough, I'm not good enough"

Scientists believe 95% of your life comes from the subconscious point of view, meaning 95% of the time, you're being driven by your subconscious wiring, not the wiring of your conscious mind at all. 

The Good news is YOU can rewire your subconscious pathways to better support your big dreams, visions, and goals! Once you understand what's holding you back by your subconscious wiring, then you can start to move forward into rewiring!...