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Here's an exploration of the two perspectives:

Life is Happening to Me:

External Forces: This perspective often involves seeing life events as external forces acting upon you. It might feel like circumstances, challenges, and experiences are beyond your control.

Reacting Mode: Individuals with this mindset may find themselves reacting to situations, feeling overwhelmed by external events, and perceiving life as a series of unpredictable occurrences.

Life is Happening For Me:

Empowerment: Adopting the mindset that life is happening for you suggests a belief that there is purpose and meaning in every experience, even in challenges. It's about finding opportunities for growth and learning.

Active Participation: This perspective implies that you play an active role in shaping your experiences. Challenges are viewed as opportunities to develop resilience, gain insights, and move closer to your goals.

Positive Reframing: Even in difficult circumstances, the focus is on reframing challenges into...

Maya Angelou said, “People won’t remember what you said, they won’t remember what you did, but they will remember how you made them feel”.  

It’s true, right? Emotions are contagious and how you make people feel depends on whether your nervous system is regulated or not. 

Imagine a time someone walked into a room and they were full of rage, anger, or hate. Just being in their presence might invoke anxiety, your nervous system may absorb their stress levels, your body may begin to suddenly feel tense, tight, or constricted.

Now recall a time you were with someone who was full of joy! They entered the room that you’re in and it felt like sunshine. They were light and airy and full of love. They radiated fulfillment and excitement. All of a sudden, you felt uplifted, expanded, and lit up. As if you were breathing easier and your body felt more relaxed, open, and expansive.

At its core, nervous system regulation is the ability to move flexibly between different states of ar...

If you’re successful on the surface, yet struggling underneath, I was too.

A combination of meditation and coaching led me to a profound transformation and new ways of being, and experience more ease, freedom, happiness, and fulfillment. I was a success on paper, but had a nagging sense that I wasn't fully alive and thriving, or even fulfilling my real potential.

Whatever you are feeling now, feeling better is possible. Feeling calm, connected, aligned, and at ease is possible. Being centered on what matters most and grounded in mental and emotional stability is just the beginning.

You’ll find relief and it’ll feel like a giant exhale is leaving your body. You will experience deeper connections in your relationships, less burnout and frustration, more joy and peace, better health, and career success and fulfillment.

Empowerment coaching and mindfulness practices help you reprogram your brain and nervous system from old thoughts, stories, and limiting beliefs so you can stop feel...

It's essential to have effective stress relievers that can calm your mind and body.
 
Today I'm sharing 4 simple, effective, instant stress relievers that you can do anywhere, anytime. These will provide immediate relief and lower your stress, anxiety, and overwhelm right now.

ELONGATED EXHALES:

When stressed, we are often taking only shallow breaths from the upper chest. A full deep belly breath helps to release pressure and tension.
 
Breathing in deeply and extending your exhale a couple of seconds longer than the inhale (i.e. inhale for 5, hold for 5, exhale for 7) sends signals to your nervous system that you're in a safe space and it's okay to rest and relax.

• Take a nice long, slow, deep breath through your nose into your belly, letting your abdomen expand fully
• Hold it for a few seconds
• Imagine you have a wand with a bubble on it - as you breathe out, be careful not to pop the bubble
• As you exhale, unclench your jaw, drop your shoulders, and soften your belly
• Close your eye
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Do you remember the last time you were able to completely quiet your mind?

I’m asking because this is probably the most common myth about meditation.

People often tell me “I can’t meditate because I can’t stop thinking.” You’re not failing at meditation just because you still have thoughts running through your mind!

The truth is, your mind produces thoughts just as naturally as your heart pumps the blood through your veins! When you sit down to meditate, just like your heart keeps beating, and your lungs keep breathing, your mind keeps thinking because that’s what minds do!

Meditation is a way to retrain your mind so that you can control what it pays attention to, and so that your thoughts no longer control you.

Through daily practice, you can learn to anchor your mind in the awareness that notices your thoughts and emotions – without getting swept up in them.

It is from this space that you can:

- Turn chaos into calm, busyness into balance, and pressure into peace

- Shine prof...