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A Powerful Paradigm Shift
Here's an exploration of the two perspectives:
Life is Happening to Me:
External Forces:Â This perspective often involves seeing life events as external forces acting upon you. It might feel like circumstances, challenges, and experiences are beyond your control.
Reacting Mode:Â Individuals with this mindset may find themselves reacting to situations, feeling overwhelmed by external events, and perceiving life as a series of unpredictable occurrences.
Life is Happening For Me:
Empowerment:Â Adopting the mindset that life is happening for you suggests a belief that there is purpose and meaning in every experience, even in challenges. It's about finding opportunities for growth and learning.
Active Participation:Â This perspective implies that you play an active role in shaping your experiences. Challenges are viewed as opportunities to develop resilience, gain insights, and move closer to your goals.
Positive Reframing:Â Even in difficult circumstances, the focus is on reframing challenges into...
A Gentle Reminder: One Thing You Can Control in Turbulent Times
Amidst this turbulence, I invite you to consider a different path—one that you have the power to navigate. The key lies in how you treat yourself.
Why Self-Treatment Matters: Treating yourself with love, kindness, understanding, compassion, and empathy is a powerful way to fulfill your core needs—for safety, belonging, unconditional love, to be seen, and to be heard. In times of struggle, turning towards yourself can be a beacon of solace.
A Compassionate Approach:Â When faced with challenges, take a moment to identify which needs are unmet. Ask yourself, "What is the most nourishing thing right no...
Emotions are contagious!
Maya Angelou said, “People won’t remember what you said, they won’t remember what you did, but they will remember how you made them feel”. Â
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It’s true, right? Emotions are contagious and how you make people feel depends on whether your nervous system is regulated or not.Â
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Imagine a time someone walked into a room and they were full of rage, anger, or hate. Just being in their presence might invoke anxiety, your nervous system may absorb their stress levels, your body may begin to suddenly feel tense, tight, or constricted.
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Now recall a time you were with someone who was full of joy! They entered the room that you’re in and it felt like sunshine. They were light and airy and full of love. They radiated fulfillment and excitement. All of a sudden, you felt uplifted, expanded, and lit up. As if you were breathing easier and your body felt more relaxed, open, and expansive.
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At its core, nervous system regulation is the ability to move flexibly between different states of ar...
