We often hope that others will act the way we think they should. We hope that a new job opportunity will be a great fit, or that a new romantic partner, boss, friend, or colleague will be as we hoped.
Sometimes, it turns out they’re not who we wanted them to be and we wish they were different or better, or we feel disappointed, heartbroken, frustrated, and/or angry. This can cause us to have self-doubt, blame, shame, second-guess, or judge ourselves.
What if it’s simply that that person, job, or situation was not what we hoped they would be?
We can be disappointed and choose not to judge, criticize, or put down them or ourselves.
Instead, choosing to think “They are not who I hoped they would be” allow them to be as they are, without wishing they were different or better. Without being attached to them needing to change. It also allows you to accept them for who they are and allows you to be calm, as well as have peace and self-trust.
From this calm, centered space, you can then decide whether to continue the relationship, take action to improve the relationship, create space for new and better relationships, leave the relationship altogether, or whatever feels right for you.
Hi, I'm Kelly. Your Empowerment Coach and Mindfulness Mentor. I am an experienced wellness leader, a former 18-year veteran of a successful commercial real estate career, a wife, a mom of 2 teens, a certified meditation teacher, a breathwork facilitator, and an energy healer.
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