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We often hope that others will act the way we think they should. We hope that a new job opportunity will be a great fit, or that a new romantic partner, boss, friend, or colleague will be as we hoped.

Sometimes, it turns out they’re not who we wanted them to be and we wish they were different or better, or we feel disappointed, heartbroken, frustrated, and/or angry. This can cause us to have self-doubt, blame, shame, second-guess, or judge ourselves.

What if it’s simply that that person, job, or situation was not what we hoped they would be?

We can be disappointed and choose not to judge, criticize, or put down them or ourselves.

Instead, choosing to think “They are not who I hoped they would be” allow them to be as they are, without wishing they were different or better. Without being attached to them needing to change. It also allows you to accept them for who they are and allows you to be calm, as well as have peace and self-trust.

From this calm, centered space, you can then decide wh...

Once upon a time, there was an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years.

One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. “Such bad luck,” they said sympathetically, “you must be so sad.”

“We’ll see,” the farmer replied.

The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it two other wild horses.

“How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed. “Not only did your horse return, but you received two more. What great fortune you have!”

“We’ll see,” answered the farmer.

The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. “Now your son cannot help you with your farming,” they said. “What terrible luck you have!”

“We’ll see,” replied the old farmer.

The following week, military officials came to the village to conscript young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farm...